Eleven Signs Of A Healthy Relationship

In honor of Valentine's Day, let's celebrate healthy love!!!

1. You feel good about yourself.
2. You can act silly and goofy and make mistakes without feeling shameful. You know that your boyfriend or girlfriend will love you and your imperfections. 
3. You don't bite your tongue--you feel comfortable saying what you want and feel, and there is open communication between you and your boyfriend.
4. You still have independence, you can do things on your own or with friends and don't have to worry about it. 
5. You don't feel feel like you are pretending, or that you should be someone other than who you are.
6. You have a healthy sexual relationship, both of you make decisions and feel good about your decisions. You can talk openly about what you want and what you don't want and you feel like your voice is respected and listened to.
7. You have room to grow, you don't feel stifled or stuck or suffocated. 
8. You laugh with the person and have fun together. You never feel afraid of your partner. 
9. You trust each other, and you are honest with each other. 
10. You feel heard, understood, and accepted. 
11. You feel happy.

One Hundred and Eleven Ways To Say No To Sex

1. No thanks. 
2. Not tonight, how about in ten years?
3. If you really loved me you would wait.
4. Let's just kiss instead.
5. If you really loved me you would stop asking.
6. How about we watch a movie instead.
7. We might get caught.
8. I don't want to be just another one of your girls.
9. Ummmm....nope!
10. My parents trust me and I don't want to break their trust.
11. Haven't you ever watched 16 and Pregnant? I don't want to end up like that.

Eleven Reasons Why Being Single Is Great

1. You have freedom! Freedom to do what you want to do without asking for someone else's opinion and without having to think about what someone else wants to do, or wants you to do.
2. You can save the money you would spend on your boyfriend and buy yourself something nice. 
3. You have more time to hang out with your friends, have girl's night out, act crazy and silly and have fun without having to leave the room to talk to your boyfriend or being stressed about relationship troubles. 
4. You don't have to shave your legs if you don't want to.
5. You have more time to play sports, take up a musical instrument, try a new hobby, study a little more, go camping, volunteer at an animal shelter, read a book, go to a concert, dance, sing, run, laugh, do yoga, cuddle with your little sister, play video games, look at magazines, bake cookies, paint a picture, or do anything else you never get a chance to do. 
6. You can figure out what you like, not try to like things that your boyfriend likes.
7. You can date other people. Or you can just be friends with other boys without your boyfriend getting jealous. Or you can just stare at other boys or flirt with them without feeling guilty. 
8. You get to think about what you want, without taking someone else into consideration. You get to pick what restaurant you want to eat at, how long you want to stay at a party, when you want to go to sleep or what you want to do all weekend. 
9. You will be available when Mr. Right comes along, and by that time you will appreciate him. 
10. You get to figure out who you are as an individual, not as part of a couple.  
11. You don't have to worry about making someone else happy. No drama. No checking in with someone all the time. No feeling guilty. You get to focus on making yourself happy. :)

Eleven Examples of Abusive Behavior

Your partner:

1. Hits you, punches you, pushes you, kicks you, bites you, slaps you, scratches you, or does any other action that inflicts pain onto you.
2. Threatens to do any of these things.
3. Says that he/she will kill themselves if you leave.
4. Tells you that if they can't be with you, then no one can. 
5. Makes you feel stupid in front of other people.
6. Calls you things like "slut, whore, bitch, stupid, fat, tramp,  ugly, dumb, etc...."
7. Has to know where you are at all times, who you are with and what you are doing.
8. Calls you over and over and over and over and over and over until you answer.
9. Lies to you like it's nothing.
10. Threatens to hurt your family or friends.
11. Encourages you not to have any other friends.