Never Let The Hand You Hold Hold You Down

But I Love Him!

How do you see through the love to take an honest look at your relationship?

What About The Girl I Used To Be? When Do I Get Her Back?

How do you connect the pieces to find your way back to the person you were before the abuse?

Warning Signs of Abusive Behavior

How can you identify an abuser before it’s too late?

Am I In An Abusive Relationship?

Something doesn’t feel right, but how do I know if this is normal or not?

How Do I Get Out?

Realizing that you are in an abusive relationship is the first step…now what?

Signs You Are In An Abusive Relationship:

Do You:

· Feel afraid of your boyfriend or girlfriend?

· Avoid talking about things, or bring up certain topics because you don't want to make him angry?

· Feel that you can't do anything right?

· Believe that you deserve to be hurt of mistreated?

· Wonder if you are the one that is going crazy?

· Feel emotional numb or helpless?

Does Your Partner:

· Act excessively jealous and possessive?

· Control where you go or what you do?

· Try to limit your time with friends or family?

· Constantly have to know where you are, who you are with, and what you are doing?

· Humiliate or embarrass you?

· Yell at you, or use derogatory language?

· Treat you so badly that you are embarrassed for your friends and family to see?

· Blame you for his own abusive behavior?

· Force you to have sex, or to do things you don't want to do?

· Threaten to kill you or to kill himself?

· Ignore your opinions and accomplishments, or put them down?

Dating Bill Of Rights:

I have a right to:

§ Ask for a date

§ Refuse a date

§ Suggest activities

§ Refuse any activities, even

if my date is excited about

them

§ Have my own feelings and

be able to express them

§ Say, “I think my friend is

wrong and his actions

are inappropriate”

§ Tell someone not to

interrupt me

§ Have my limits and values

respected

§ Tell my partner when I need

affection

§ Refuse affection

§ Be heard

§ Refuse to lend money

§ Refuse sex any time,

for any reason

§ Have friends and space

aside from my partner

I have the

responsibility to:

§ Determine my limits

and values

§ Respect the limits of others

§ Communicate clearly

and honestly

§ Not violate the limits of others

§ Ask for help when I need it

§ Be considerate

§ Check my actions and

decisions to determine

whether they are good

or bad for me

§ Set high goals for myself

From the Domestic Violence Advocacy

Program of Family Resources, Inc.

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